Were nearly done with September, and for some burnout is setting in. September brings back-to-school routines and packed calendars, many people fall into what psychologist Dr. Christine Korol calls the “over-commitment cycle.” Unlike the New Year, September sneaks up as families return to normal schedules, leaving little time to think before agreeing to new tasks. The result is a “yes trap,” where opportunities pile up until stress and fatigue set in.
Dr. Korol explains that the problem starts when people don’t yet know how much free space they actually have. Her solution: set micro boundaries—small personal rules that protect your time.
She adds that even though we have a limited amount of time, we think we can squeeze things in. And it’s really easy unless you have clear rules or boundaries to get into trouble by over committing. Examples include avoiding work email after 8 p.m., ending meetings ten minutes early, or leaving buffer time between appointments. Dr. Korol told us about strategy one of her mentors uses.
Signs of over-commitment vary—irritability, constant fatigue, or sarcastic thoughts can all be clues. Dr. Korol advises listening to your body, scheduling breaks, and protecting sleep.
She adds that if you must cancel a commitment, be honest and firm. “You can apologize, but stick to your decision,” she says.
By practicing micro boundaries and assertive communication, individuals can avoid September burnout, preserve their well-being, and keep time for the activities that truly matter—like coffee with a friend or a quiet Saturday morning.
Written by Jeremy Hall